My Personal Story Part III: Overcoming Fear and Embarrassment

As you know, the past few blogs have been centered around discovering your own personal story and exploring the defining moments of your life. I’ve shared my personal story – from the first defining moment of my life, the death of my mother, to being a divorced single mother out in the dating world again – and now we’ll explore the final chapter and the realizations I came to after meeting my husband.

As I mentioned in the last blog, finding my passion helped me find myself again. Through swing dancing, I found a sense of confidence and purpose I had been missing. But I also found my husband, Ben. It’s important to note that when I first met Ben, I found him annoying. He was younger than me, wore Lee jeans, tight-fitting tee shirts, and had a carabiner hanging from his back pocket. I considered him to be young and immature. We would often dance together during our Swing dancing classes and our conversations were always tinged with embarrassment. 

A year and a half after I first met him he asked me on a date, and even though I still found him to be dorky, I was intrigued, so I agreed. What was the harm in giving him a chance? It turns out that was the best decision I could have made. On our date, I saw a completely different side to Ben. I learned he was caring, smart, and thoughtful, and he truly touched my heart. When I put my perceptions of him aside I was able to really see him – and I liked what I saw. I realized he was exactly what I needed and now we’ve been together for 12 years and married for 9.

I tell this story because I realized the way I was seeing him through the lens of my own embarrassment and preconceived notions could have prevented me from finding true love. It’s important to take a step back from our own issues and experiences. It isn’t until we do that we are able to see who someone else truly is. We have a tendency to get in our own way and let our own issues warp the way we view others. That’s exactly what I did with Ben and that’s what many of my clients do. We must understand this pattern and get to the root of what it is that is holding us back.

When I was onstage at the workshop in California, telling my personal story and talking through the defining moments of my life, I was embarrassed to tell the story of meeting Ben. I didn’t even realize why I was embarrassed at first until they told me to quit taking care of Ben. They said I was taking on his embarrassment when he wasn’t even embarrassed himself. That’s when I had my big aha! moment.

It was MY OWN fear of being embarrassed and afraid of what people would think that had been holding me back in life. I felt it around the death of my mother – embarrassed because she was an alcoholic and I didn’t want anyone to find out because I was afraid they would feel sorry for me. And I felt it when I was telling the story of meeting Ben. I was embarrassed to talk about how I viewed him initially because I didn’t want to embarrass him, funny how that happens. I thought I was protecting him, yet it was really about me!

Don’t Let Embarrassment and Fear Hold You Back from Love

This realization was a profound one for me because I realized this is exactly what my clients do as well. We hold ourselves back from relationships because we don’t want to be vulnerable. We are too embarrassed or too scared, and it isn’t until we take a step back that we are able to see that this is a barrier that is preventing us from forming real connections.

You most likely know this about yourself – you know you are letting your own fears, insecurities, and experiences stop you in your tracks – but you don’t understand it at a deep enough level to be able to do something about it. That’s where I come in! Through relationship coaching, we can explore the patterns that have been a barrier for your relationships and discover your own defining moments.

Ready to Embark on a Journey of Self-Discovery in the New Year?

I’m offering a 4-week relationship coaching program in February and March for those who want to learn how to unlock their own barriers to find a healthy relationship. We’ll dive into your personal stories in order to get to the root of what has been holding you back – and explore ways to overcome these barriers. The program will be held for 4 consecutive Mondays and each session will be an hour and a half long.

Stay tuned for more information on this relationship coaching program and to find out if it’s the right fit for you! Feel free to fill out my contact form or call me at (312) 213-2395 to discuss! I’m happy to speak with you one-on-one.

My Personal Story Part II: Finding Your Own Personal Power

woman dancing

The past few blogs have been centered around my own personal journey and story – and how exploring the defining moments of my life established patterns of behavior and emotions I hadn’t even realized.

What I didn’t mention in the previous blog is after I got divorced, I was out in the dating world feeling overwhelmed and afraid of making the same mistakes in my relationships. This led me to embark on my own journey of self-discovery centered around relationships and better understanding my own history.

As many of you know, after my divorce I worked with a relationship coach myself and it set me on a course of finding the hobbies I enjoyed. I found it a bit challenging, because now I was a divorced mother of two children who didn’t have a lot of extra time for “hobbies.” But, what I’ve realized over the years is this:

Life often provides doorways to opportunities we don’t even see at the time, but these events often become instrumental in our life and personal growth.

For example, I began dating a short Jewish man who was twice my age. We met at church, and when he asked if I’d like to go on a date I said “yes,” because he seemed nice and I needed practice in the dating world. After all, I had been out of the “dating game” for quite some time.

It didn’t last very long because of many factors- not just his age! But, he was instrumental in helping me build my self-esteem and feeling better about my life as a divorcee. During our three months of dating, he introduced me to salsa and swing dancing. I found salsa to be challenging, but when he introduced me to swing dancing I fell in love!

Dancing was so refreshing and freeing. Not only was it fun, but it was also great exercise and I didn’t need a partner. As a divorced mother of two children, all my friends were married and I didn’t have any single friends, so I had to rebuild my community. It was a relief to find a hobby that I could do by myself that was just for me. I was then able to go out to clubs where I would know other dancers and it brought an excitement and passion to my life I didn’t even know I needed.

My identity was in being a wife, mother, and psychotherapist and I didn’t have anything that was just for me. Swing dancing opened up a whole new world for me and it helped me learn to be independent and self-reliant. I met people from all walks of life and ages and everyone was there to simply have a good time, meet new people, and dance. It was like a breath of fresh air and I was able to let loose and have fun on my own terms. I didn’t have to consult with anyone about what I wanted to do, I just did it.

I gained confidence in myself again and soon, the glaring, constant feeling that there was something wrong with me subsided and there was no longer the desperation that stemmed from being alone. I was able to redefine what was important to me and learn who I was without someone else. I was able to learn who I am when I’m not taking care of someone else, and therefore began trusting myself again.

Find Your Passion Before You Find Love

I still dated, but it wasn’t in the forefront of my mind. I was more focused on having fun, finding my passion, and meeting new people. I had been out in the dating world for 4 years before I started dating my husband. When I met him, I was more confident in who I was and had begun to understand what I wanted and needed in a relationship.

The key is that I found my passion before I found my love. If I hadn’t first taken the time to explore hobbies and really learn who I was without a relationship, I wouldn’t have been open and ready for one when I met my husband. It’s important to take the time to explore patterns of past behavior and insecurities. We must first understand what is holding us back before we can truly move on and be ready for that healthy relationship when it finally comes.

In my next blog – the third and final part of my personal story series – I’ll explore the story of meeting my husband and the realizations I came to about myself through meeting him. During this journey of telling my story I’ve discovered that all of these defining moments of my life tie together and the same underlying emotions and feelings have been present throughout them all. This realization has been quite powerful and has helped me to better understand myself and grow even more as a person.

My hope is that you too can have these discoveries of your own. If you think you’d benefit from exploring your own story and diving deeper into those defining moments of your own life, check out my relationship coaching program. Feel free to fill out the contact form and I’ll be in touch to schedule a consultation!

My Personal Story Part I: How My Childhood Shaped My Relationship Choices

In my previous blog, I discussed How Defining Your Personal Story Can Lead to Relationship Success. As a quick recap, over the summer I attended a workshop at the Gary Marshall Theatre to learn how to tell my own personal story in order to better address the needs of my clients and help them explore their own stories.

Onstage during the workshop, I had this Aha! moment where I realized what had been holding me back in life and in my relationships were actually two different emotions – and how those emotions were deeply rooted in the two defining moments of my life.

We each have a defining moment in our lives that has impacted who we are and shaped our decisions in ways we don’t even realize. It is not until we dive deeper into those defining moments that we can identify patterns of behavior that are a result of what we’ve been through and can open up opportunities for us.

Opening up and being vulnerable enough to share the rawest – and at times most difficult – moments of your life is not an easy task. It is one that even I struggle with. While they were asking me to tell my own personal story, I found it difficult to really dive in and give details – about my dating journey in particular. It was only when they pushed me and asked me to dig deeper that I realized why I found it so difficult. I was embarrassed about my struggles in who I dated. And that embarrassment wasn’t just because I didn’t want to talk about myself or relay my most personal moments to strangers. What I thought was embarrassment over the dating decisions I’ve made was actually stemming from my childhood. I realized that this embarrassment was tied to the first defining moment of my life – the death of my mother – and my shame and embarrassment surrounding that event.

The Defining Moment of My Childhood

I am the youngest of six kids and I grew up in a big, loud Catholic Italian family. When I was thirteen, my father pulled me aside and out of the blue said, “your mother is dead.” I was living with him at the time, as they’d gotten divorced when I was five, and I was completely blindsided by it. I hadn’t even known she was in the hospital. Looking back on it now, there were a lot of emotions attached to that moment, but the underlying one was this feeling of not being good enough. I felt as though I didn’t matter and I was insignificant. After all, he hadn’t even bothered to tell me she was in the hospital. I was overwhelmed by the feelings of “I don’t matter, nothing matters.”

That was definitely the defining moment of my childhood and shaped me in many ways. That feeling of not being good enough and feeling like I don’t matter stayed with me well into adulthood – 25 years later when I was a divorced single mother. After 13 years of marriage I was out in the dating world again, once again feeling overwhelmed and like I didn’t matter. And I took those underlying feelings with me as I dove back into dating.

Identifying the Underlying Emotions That Were Holding Me Back

I knew that I felt like I didn’t matter often in life and in intimate relationships, but what I didn’t realize was how embarrassed and shamed I was as a child because my mother died at 46 of alcoholism. When I was on stage I had this feeling of embarrassment, but more than that, I didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for me.

This became even more evident as I dove into my second defining moment – meeting my current husband. In my next blog, I’ll tell that story and explore the emotions associated with meeting him – and what that helped me realize about myself.

It wasn’t until I was talking about my journey diving back into the dating world and telling the story of meeting my husband (and deciding whether or not to date him) that I realized these feelings of embarrassment weren’t just about what people would think if I was dating a “dorky” guy, but actually ran deeper. While talking about the embarrassment tied to my dating and relationship history I realized I was actually embarrassed about my mother’s death and how it would reflect on me.

While I was on stage speaking about my personal story, with those in the workshop pushing me, I realized the reason I had been so afraid to get up there was because my biggest fears are 1). to embarrass myself and 2). for others to feel sorry for me. And these emotions showed up in my struggle over whether to date this “dorky” guy or not.

I share this story to show you that you are not alone. We all have things we have gone through that are holding us back from what we want most in life – to find someone that has our backs no matter what and loves us unconditionally! I have been doing self-discovery work for over 20 years and continue to see how these issues keep unfolding and offering more growth and awareness. It isn’t until we explore these things that can be painful or hard to think about, let alone talk about out loud, that we are able to see how they have been holding us back. By learning to define and talk about your personal story and the moments that have shaped who you are, you will be able to identify what has been keeping you from finding the relationship you want.

That’s why I’m putting together a group for singles who value personal growth and may know their patterns, but still find themselves being stuck. They can’t let go of the feelings that keep them out of the dating world and keep repeating the same patterns over and over again. Does this sound like you? Together we can clear these patterns once and for all to help you free yourself from the walls you’ve been hiding behind.  Keep an eye out for more information on this group – coming in the New Year!

If you’re interested in exploring your personal story and diving deeper into the defining moment of your life, consider my relationship coaching program. I’ll be there every step of the way to help you work through these emotions and identify ways you can overcome these triggers in order to find the healthy, loving relationship you’ve been seeking.

Give me a call at (312) 213-2395 or fill out my contact form, and I’ll be in touch. If I can do it, you can do it. In fact, we can do it together.

How Defining Your Personal Story Can Lead to Relationship Success

Over the course of the past few months, I’ve been on a personal journey to gain a deeper understanding of my clients. In order to do that, I first had to understand my own personal story and how it relates to those I work with. After all, before we can understand others, we first have to understand ourselves.

So, with that purpose in mind, I traveled to Burbank, California for a workshop at the Gary Marshall Theatre. The workshop focused on learning how to speak from the stage in order to tell your own personal story. It wasn’t until I started speaking onstage that I truly realized just how closely my own story mirrors the stories of my clients. This realization has led me to explore a new area of my relationship coaching program that I want to share with all of you.

What Is Your Defining Moment?

 

We often have something that has happened to us in our lives that impacts us in ways we don’t even realize. Each of us has a defining moment that has shaped who we are and how we react to and deal with situations. In order to unlock what is holding us back in life – or in a relationship – we must dig deeper.

During this workshop in Burbank, they asked me to get up on the stage and tell the story of the defining moment of my life. I began telling my own personal story, and it wasn’t until those leading the workshop began asking me questions and pushing me to dig deeper that I had my aha! moment and realized what the larger things were in my life that had been stopping me in my tracks and preventing me from finding what I was truly looking for.

In telling my story I actually told two different stories – first, the story of the defining moment of my childhood and then, the story of meeting my husband, Ben. Each story helped me unlock and uncover different emotions, and it wasn’t until I told both that I realized the root of both defining moments in my life was the same underlying emotion – embarrassment. Once I realized what the emotion was, I truly understood how it had been holding me back.

I took away two main things from this experience:

  • It is not until you step back from your own experiences and feelings and the “baggage” that is blocking you and holding you back that you will see who someone else truly is. When we have our own things going on, that clouds our judgment and how we see others. Until we are able to unlock these things and take a step back we aren’t ready or able to meet the “right” one.
    We hold ourselves back from relationships because we don’t want to be seen. We are embarrassed by our own challenges and the scars that we carry from our defining moments, and more than that, we’re scared. We’re afraid to let someone else see these things and are terrified of what will happen when they do. Because we don’t want to share these stories, we hold ourselves back from relationships.

 

  • We often know what is holding us back, but we only know it at the surface level. I knew that I felt embarrassed while telling my story onstage, but I didn’t realize that embarrassment ran much deeper. We understand these things about ourselves and can see what the issues may be, but we don’t know and understand them at a deep level where we are able to do something about them. That’s where I come in! Together, we can figure out your personal story and uncover the underlying, deeper emotions at play.

 

Once you are able to define and share your story, you’ll discover things you didn’t even realize about yourself. And those realizations will help you along your journey to finding a healthy relationship. If you think you could benefit from figuring out your own personal story, please contact me to set up a relationship coaching consultation call.

In an effort to dig deeper with my clients and move forward with this new aspect of my relationship coaching program, over the next few months my blogs and newsletters will center around personal stories. Keep an eye out for next month’s blog where I’ll share my own personal stories I shared onstage in Burbank. My hope is that by learning about my story and better understanding the realizations I came to and how they’ve helped me, you’ll see how uncovering your story will help you in your own life.

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Sue helps you get straight to the heart of the matter. She has a gentle way of guiding you to uncover the whys behind your challenges and helps you shift to a new place in life. I had been stuck in a long rut of dating men that were unavailable. After working with Sue and her method, she helped me get out of that rut and put me on a clear path to more meaningful and positive relationships.

—LM, Chicago

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It is 5 months into my relationship with Bill. He has a strong spiritual connection and has done lots of personal growth work. He clearly is open to a relationship with someone who has shared values and someone who wants to continue to evolve and deepen in partnership. And he dances!!  He lives in Naples for 7 months, as do I. His other home is in Santa Fe. I just returned from spending 10 magical days with him there. He and I have several trips planned for the summer so we can maintain our connection, share experiences traveling, and continue our path of deepening and evolving as a committed couple.

 

I am beyond happy, and with all the healing work you and I did together, I wanted to share with you that it has made a remarkable difference. I feel centered, open and committed to continuing to evolve as a person and in partnership with a man who is equally committed to co-creating a healthy and flourishing partnership.

 

In deep gratitude and with a happy and warm heart.

—SL, Chicago

5 Relationship Truths to Keep in Mind This Summer

couple in summer

In my previous blog, I discussed 5 Tips For Finding Love This Summer. As a quick recap, those 5 tips are:

  • You will probably not recognize your soulmate at first.
  • Relationships are not as they appear in romcoms and romantic novels.
  • It takes years to truly get to know someone.
  • A relationship needs love, care, and space.
  • Great relationships are worth the effort.

 

I understand how hard it can be to re-enter the dating world. You desperately want to find that special someone to share your life with but have no idea where to start. Summer seems like the perfect time to find someone, but you’re also reminded of just how lonely you are when you see your friends out on adventures with their partner.

It’s important to keep perspective. While it may seem like everyone around you is in a healthy, happy, and loving relationship, chances are that’s far from the truth. In reality, there are plenty of single people all around us and you’re definitely not alone in your dating struggles. The key to dating this summer – or any time for that matter – is to stay positive, be realistic, manage expectations, and be open to possibilities.

If you’re looking to find love this summer, there are some other things you need to keep in mind.

5 Relationship Truths To Remember:

 

1. In spite of many bad relationships, a great relationship IS possible.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been “unlucky in love.” All that matters is that you take the steps necessary to build a healthy, loving relationship. It’s important to take different steps than the ones you have taken in the past. Being open to the right relationship is key.

2. You don’t have to have the relationship your parents had.

Regardless of the example that was set for you or the worldview of past generations, your life and decisions belong to you. Choose how you will go about your relationships instead of blindly walking through them and trying to emulate the way your mother approached her own relationships. You are your own person and your relationship is yours and yours alone.

3. Being together makes you a better person.

When you find the right person, your relationship will grow deeper through the good times and the difficult times. Going through tough things together will help create a more intimate connection.

4. Find someone who understands your “quirks.”

When you find “the one,” they will accept you completely – despite any weird or strange personality traits or quirks. In fact, they will love you because of those things because they are what make you who you are.

5. You can only have a great relationship when you don’t need one.

We’ve all heard the philosophy that the right relationship comes when you aren’t looking for one. It may sound cliche, but it’s true and worth repeating. You will only find a healthy relationship when you are comfortable being alone and aren’t reliant on a relationship for your happiness.

As you navigate the world of dating, it’s important to keep those 5 things in mind. It can be easy to get frustrated or give up, but as long as you keep perspective and practice patience, you will find the one for you.

If you think you need more help overcoming your own internal barriers so that you can find a happy, healthy relationship, consider my 3-month relationship coaching program. Call me today at 312-213-2395 for a free relationship consultation!

5 Tips For Finding Love This Summer

woman at beach in summer

Summer is upon us! It’s a time for laying out by the pool, barbecues, vacations, and adventure. Typically in the summer months things tend to slow down a bit and we find ourselves with more time on our hands. That’s why the summer is the perfect time to start dating. Whether you love going on dates or dread the dating scene, it’s the time to try something new and start meeting new people.

Having time to ourselves to enjoy the summer months can be both a blessing and a curse. With more free time on our hands, we often tend to notice the feelings and emotions we normally push aside. Feelings of loneliness or discomfort may arise when we realize we haven’t been focusing time or energy towards finding love or unleashing our inner fun and playfulness.

We typically head into the summer feeling one of two ways. One, we are looking at things from the “glass half full” perspective and are excited to start dating and are anticipating at least one or two hot dates. Or two, our glass is “half empty” and we’re sad about not having a special someone and are dreading the summer.

The truth is, you’re most likely a combination of both. Whichever side is more dominant in you, be sure to see both sides of the situation. Embrace the fact that summer is a time for endless possibilities and new beginnings.

Many of my clients believe another summer will come and go and they will stay in the same place – alone and feeling like there is nothing they can do about it. We get stuck in a rut and think there is no way to change our relationship status. So, we go about our summer and things stay the same.

The key to finding love this summer – or any time for that matter – is to manage expectations. Unrealistic expectations will only create more problems. I typically see two very different scenarios when it comes to my clients. On one hand, I have clients who can never seem to find a relationship because the men never measure up to their expectations. They only see the negative qualities and have trouble finding the positive qualities in their dates. On the other hand, I have clients who jump into dating and by the third date are already traveling together and making long-term commitments. The problem with that is that they haven’t taken the time to really get to know the person they are dating. As you can see, there are unrealistic expectations on both ends of the spectrum.

Whether you’re excited to date or are filled with anxiety and dread, it’s important to go into this summer with an open mind and heart. If you’re looking to find “the one,” check out my tips below to help motivate you to date this summer.

Tips for Finding “The One”

 

1. You probably will not recognize your soulmate right away.

When you meet “the one” you will not experience a rush of hormones, butterflies, or the typical fanfare depicted in novels. You will only know him or her by a very gentle tug on the heart. Instead of looking for an instant attraction or “spark,” look for that gentle feeling inside and start by building a friendship without any expectations for something more. If they are really your soulmate, that will become obvious with time.

2.  Relationships rarely, if ever, are as they appear in romantic movies and books.

Real people fall into real love slowly. Instead of a “happily ever after”they live “fully ever after” and have a rich, full, and healthy life together. Things take time, work, and effort. No relationship is as it appears on the big screen, so be sure to take a realistic approach as you are dating and meeting new people.

3.  It takes years to really get to know someone.

As you know, being human means we are complex beings. People have many layers and sides to them and it can take a while – years even – to fully get to know someone. Give yourself time to be sure you are really learning all there is to know about your partner.

4.  A relationship is a living being that needs love, care, and space.

People tend to either ignore or smother in relationships. Neither of these are great conditions for a thriving relationship. Healthy relationships need time, attention, and consistency.

5. Great relationships are completely worth the effort.

There is nothing like being in a supportive and loving relationship. A good, positive relationship is completely worth the effort. When you find the right one, you will be understood on a deep level – and they will love you despite all of your flaws or eccentricities. This is one of the best feelings in the world.

So, now that you have some things to keep in mind as you approach the dating scene this summer, it’s time to start going on dates! If you think you may need some more help and coaching, my 3-month relationship coaching program might be the right fit for you. Contact me today to schedule a free consultation call.

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Sue is amazing to work with! She is thorough and asks thought-provoking questions that make you challenge your assumptions and old habits. She is resourceful, organized, supportive and professional. Her workbook and assignments really help discern what type of relationship you are looking for and create a plan to attract the right person. Sue has guided me from not dating at all to seeing my choices in the buffet of men in the world!

Thank you for all of your help.

—JF, Norridge

What It Means to Be an Empath

I recently came across an article about empaths that resonated deeply with me and knew I had to share it. Being a therapist and an empath myself, I have worked many years to stay balanced in my work and home life. It has been a daily practice, but reading this article by Bo Forbes, An Empath’s Guide to Staying Balanced, put all the pieces of the puzzle together for me.

I have always known that I was sensitive, and was even “labeled” as ‘Most Sensitive’ in my High School yearbook. I often felt different from others and yet, there are so many gifts that come from being an Empath. For example, I like to think I’m creative, expressive, intuitive, loving, playful, and I feel good in nature and being outdoors.

What this article does is help you see that you are not alone or “weird.” While you may feel misunderstood, you don’t have anything wrong with you. You’re simply an empath. While there are some challenges that come with that, through self-love, self-care, and establishing boundaries, you can have a rich and rewarding life – and relationship.

Empathy vs Empath

The key to understanding what it means to be an empath is to understand what an empath actually is. You know what empathy means, but what is the difference between feeling empathy and being an empath?

Empathy – If you feel empathy, your heart goes out to others. The term empathic means feeling into others’ feelings.

Empath – If you’re an empath, though, you feel the emotions of others deeply and often take the energy of others into your body. As Bo Forbes explains it in her article, “an empath is more tuned in, more empathic, and more sensitive than the average empathic person.”

Being an empath can be a great asset, as you’re tuned in and sensitive, but it can also come at quite the cost – especially in relationships. Empaths are often attracted to unavailable men because it feels safer to them, due to their need for space and time alone. They struggle to balance their own needs with their partner’s needs and often feel guilty that they are asking for too much and their needs won’t be met. They often get overwhelmed, are afraid to be “suffocated,” and don’t know how to express their needs.  

So, how do we bridge this gap in order to have the relationship we want? First, we must take our power back by building trust in ourselves and our gut instincts.

I recently came across an excerpt from a new book called Hunch by Bernadette Jiva that offers great insight into how to trust our own intuition. According to Jiva, the key to making good decisions is to sharpen our intuition. Jiva offers 3 ways to do just that:

  • Unplug: Set aside time to think without distractions. This will allow you to be more observant and open to seeing new solutions.
  • Ask yourself questions: Constantly question why things are the way they are and how you can change or improve them. Then, get comfortable with uncertainty as you move toward finding your intuitive answers. Two important questions to ask yourself are: 
    • What needs do I have that I have been afraid to ask for in a relationship?
    • What would make me feel comfortable in an intimate relationship?
  • Follow the fear: It is always scary to take a leap of faith, but remember you have to risk failure in order to succeed at anything. According to Jiva, “the purpose of fear on the journey of discovery is to signal that we might just be on to something worth working toward.”

 

The good news is, that through self-discovery, reflection, and learning to trust your own intuition, you can have the relationship you want and desire. For tips on how to balance your emotions and your empathic tendencies in order to live “in a state of physical and emotional equilibrium,” be sure to check out Bo Forbes’ article below. 

I Feel Your Pain: An Empath’s Guide to Staying Balanced

If you feel you need help balancing your empathic nature in order to open yourself up to a healthy relationship, my Relationship Coaching Program might just be the perfect fit! Call me at (312) 213-2395 to discuss how you could benefit from relationship coaching.