Sue De Santo, LCSW

Professional and Personal Experience


Sue De Santo, LCSW


Often people struggle to understand why they seem to be getting into the same relationships over and over again. As a therapist for over twenty years, Sue De Santo has helped people move through their doubts and fears about relationships to lead richer, more full lives.


After 20 plus years as a clinical social worker and relationship coach, Sue has drawn on her experience as a divorced mother to discover the real reason so many people fail at finding love – They think they’re “ready” to be in a relationship, but they aren’t.


How does she know this to be true? Because she’s been there. She was one of those singles going on 8 first dates because she kept connecting with the wrong men. She did not see her own blind spots in her relationships. After these painful experiences, Sue was determined to find out if it was possible to have a healthy intimate relationship and how to achieve that goal, so she began working with a relationship coach. Once she understood what the hidden barriers were preventing her from finding love, she felt more comfortable with herself and dating. During that journey she found out that we don’t have to give up ourselves for a relationship – we ultimately can’t. We must embrace ourselves and open our hearts to love.


About the Relationship Coaching Program


As a relationship coach in Chicago, Sue offers a one-on-one relationship coaching program for those wishing to overcome their own barriers in order to find the love they truly deserve. Her relationship coaching program is a proven system that provides clients with a roadmap to understanding these barriers and moving through them with ease and support. When you work with Sue, you no longer have to struggle and feel completely alone. Through open and honest conversations, proven methods, exercises, and meditations, you will work together to explore what has been holding you back and how you can move forward in a healthy relationship.


Sue is dedicated to helping other singles create the best version of “me” so they can create the best version of “we”. When we are centered within ourselves and enjoying life, the most amazing things happen!


Learn more about Sue’s relationship coaching program or contact her today!

Sue helps you get straight to the heart of the matter. She has a gentle way of guiding you to uncover the whys behind your challenges and helps you shift to a new place in life. I had been stuck in a long rut of dating men that were unavailable. After working with Sue and her method, she helped me get out of that rut and put me on a clear path to more meaningful and positive relationships.

—LM, Chicago

It is 5 months into my relationship with Bill. He has a strong spiritual connection and has done lots of personal growth work. He clearly is open to a relationship with someone who has shared values and someone who wants to continue to evolve and deepen in partnership. And he dances!!  He lives in Naples for 7 months, as do I. His other home is in Santa Fe. I just returned from spending 10 magical days with him there. He and I have several trips planned for the summer so we can maintain our connection, share experiences traveling, and continue our path of deepening and evolving as a committed couple.


I am beyond happy, and with all the healing work you and I did together, I wanted to share with you that it has made a remarkable difference. I feel centered, open and committed to continuing to evolve as a person and in partnership with a man who is equally committed to co-creating a healthy and flourishing partnership.


In deep gratitude and with a happy and warm heart.

—SL, Chicago

Sue is amazing to work with! She is thorough and asks thought-provoking questions that make you challenge your assumptions and old habits. She is resourceful, organized, supportive and professional. Her workbook and assignments really help discern what type of relationship you are looking for and create a plan to attract the right person. Sue has guided me from not dating at all to seeing my choices in the buffet of men in the world!

Thank you for all of your help.

—JF, Norridge

I have worked with Sue De Santo and I am so grateful for her expertise, wisdom, guidance, and encouragement. Through her Relationship Coaching Program, Sue expertly led me through exercises and discussions to explore who I was, my past relationship experience and most importantly where I wanted to go and what kind of relationship I was looking for. I feel like I have blossomed under her supervision which has allowed me to become the person I want to be and to find the healthy, enriching and satisfying relationship that I wanted and deserved. She encouraged me to partake of the “dating buffet” and I did and got great results and had a lot of fun doing it. Thank you Sue!

—BS, Chicago

After participating in Sue’s three month program, I’m clearer on my relationship requirements and feel better equipped to connect deeply with others. Thought provoking exercises and her patient guidance made this experience better than other books and programs I’ve tried in the past!

—CS, Cincinnati

I highly recommend Sue DeSanto as a compassionate and supportive relationship coach. She is intuitive, knowledgeable and effectively uses the emotional freedom techniques to clear old patterns and beliefs. She is a great thought partner to work with as you explore your relationship to dating as well as while you begin a relationship and work through the inherent uncertainties and questions that process brings up. She has a great sense of humor to bring lightness to the work. And she is generous in sharing her experiences in ways that may inform your own.

—JT, Chicago

Susan is kind and compassionate and helped me get at the heart of what has been holding me back from finding the relationship I want and need. I appreciate all she’s done so far and look forward to continuing my journey with her coaching and guidance.

—NT, Chicago

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